One of the things that I hear often especially from people who are looking out to date or get married is – ‘Are you Stable?’
It may sound a normal question for many, neutral for many and wierd for some.
Normally, the quantification of ‘Stability’ is as follows:
- Draws Monthly Salary
- Bank Balance
- Assets like house, car etc.
Having said this, there is a good counter to it. There is no doubt all three look plausible at face value but let’s delve into it:
- Covid outbreak has shown that an extremely well paying job can vaporise when the tide turns
- Bank Balance is a cushion but it can be vaporized in case of hospitalization or emergencies
- The assets mentioned are at best depreciating by nature. They cannot be monetized immediately during desparate times
Why stating the above points in counter so important?
The normal believe is – Life runs very well in a fixed conduit but uncertainty is the only constant thing in life and it is best to accept this.
Appreciating a person’s value system can go a long way rather than looking at nitty gritty.
Let me know your views and thoughts.